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A good relationship isn't a game you play or an ego trip you
take. It is about love and two people. Loving someone can
give us the greatest joy we can ever know and it can hurt
more than we can believe too. When it does not really hurt
when that person did something disappointing to you, but
really hurts when you see that person in pain and sadness,
then you know you truly love that person.
Loving someone means you should be ready to experience
heartache and happiness at the same time. That's the reward
and that's the risk. Unless we are willing to experience it,
we will never really know what it's like to love and be
loved.
Sharing love is probably the most valuable and meaningful
experience a person can ever have. And there's a difference
between being in love with someone and loving someone. It's
the difference between a love that's fickle, wild and
short-lived and one that's tender and passionate, nurturing
and lasts a long time. The first is easy. The second, the
one that really matters to all of us, takes work -- because
it's about keeping a relationship.
Loving someone takes efforts. We have to be able to
communicate with each other. Nobody can read anyone else's
mind. We always presume that our partner knows what we think
and feel. Maybe in time we might be able to predict or sense
each other's thoughts but it's never perfect and takes time
to develop.
Getting the chance to love and be loved by someone is
blessed. Respect him/her for who he/she is, and not what you
want him/her to be. Everyone is pretty and special in
his/her own special way. No one is perfect. It is true love
which closes the gap of imperfectness to form a smooth
surface of acceptance for each other. True love sees and
accepts a person for who he/she is. It is also true love
which makes a person change for the better.
The power of true love to a person is undeniable.
A relationship needs commitments too. What is love without
commitments from each other anyway? It's like principles and
values. Everyone has them but they only mean as much as we
are willing to stand for them.
The same goes for our commitments to relationships, and the
person we love.
"Love is like an antique vase. It's hard to find, hard to
get, but easy to break."
Every day everywhere, people fall in love ... but just how
many of these relationships are self-sacrificing love, and
not just relationships which are formed only for the intense
feeling of falling in love? I know hundreds of friends who
say the magical words "I love you"... but more often than
not, the truth is just -- I am IN love with you. There is a
difference between being in love with someone and loving
someone. If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she
means that he/she likes you for who you are now and he/she
fell in love with you because of the present you.
This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as long as the
fairytale lasts. When fairy godmother comes in at midnight
to whirl us back to reality, we see the heartache of such a
relationship...where both were only IN love with each other.
But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that
he/she loves you unconditionally for who you are now, who
you were in the past and who you might be in the future.
When he/she says he/she loves you and really means it, you
have to ask yourself if you love him/her too or if you're in
love with the idea of being in love. It is very hard to see
the difference through logical thinking. Let your heart
guide you. May you be blessed on your soul-searching journey
for your soulmate. |
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